Real changes....?

People change every now and then, some for better, some for worse.

Some changes are temporary, originated from an ulterior motive to please others (maybe?) or just merely a form of self denial, it resumes back to the original state after a while.

Some changes are permanent. And if it’s for the better, I deem it as real transformation, genuinely come from the heart; it is lasting and meaningful.

I’ve been in my current workplace for about 6 months now, started off being ‘loud’ and ‘funny’ so as to blend in to the group better and to encourage more cheerful disposition amongst my gloomy and serious colleagues (*we are all accountants you see*). My attempt was quite successful, the atmosphere changed and I sincerely enjoyed the time having fun and laughter with my colleagues especially during our lunch breaks. However, I’ve recently made some changes to my ‘behaviour’ at work, not my attitude towards delivering of my work but the way I carry myself and interact with others….

My colleagues find it hard to believe and accept. I can see that they are struggling to accept that I changed and I did it overnight! (*not literally, but over a weekend*)… to those who are still wondering why and those who are still asking me what had impacted me so greatly…..here is the answer :)

After some reflection, I figured that to build genuine friendships does not come from attracting unnecessary attention by making lousy and lame remarks (*self praise*); but sincere exchange of heart-to-heart talk and sharing. And so, I changed!

I recently learnt this from my SD group (i.e. Spiritual Discipline Group from church where a group of 6 of us meet fortnightly to encourage each other to grow in our walk with God) - “Guide to Renewed Thinking”, i.e. ABCD Principle

A – Activating Event
B – Belief System
C – Consequential Feeling
D – Decisive Behaviour/ Action

where a renewed thinking/ change of belief system is core to changing the behaviour of a person.

I believe it is very powerful and true. All I did was to change my belief system, and now my behaviour changed! It goes to show that if we genuinely and decisively want to change for the better, we CAN - we just got to change our mindset/ belief system. And that is why I believe with all my heart that when God touches us, we can change instantly and permanently! This is ‘food for thought’ for those who are struggle in changing :)

Anyway, maybe this sounds a bit serious here…hahaha….to my dear colleagues (Sei Hwee, Deborah, Mages, Ee Leeng), I want to say that I truly enjoy the friendship I have with each one of you. We’ve been through different experiences together and all these are so precious to me and I hold them dear to my heart (*sincerely*)….

Sei Hwee, our GP8 ‘war-time’ and how we conquered them together, and the few times where we shared about life till we cried at our little ‘kingdom’/'territory'….you are truly a strong woman whom I have much to learn from….hope there are much more to come ya :) it's so amazing that we have so much in common :)….and ya....please stop making me FAT!

Deborah, our unforgettable trip to Melaka & Seremban, don’t think I will ever experience that with anyone else in my entire life…. You’re truly a very lovely girl….. and I like our sharing time of our faith journey, need any encouragement or a listening ear, I’m here, anytime ya…. oh ya, and you can be true to me at all time, I don’t judge and I love you the same sister :)

Mages, we’ve been through ups and downs together from audit till now ya… now that we’ve both come out ‘higher’….I hope that we will continue to spur one another on la…. Life here wouldn’t be the same without you paving the way for me :) and I know that you’re one smart and brilliant girl who can make it up high there :)

Ee Leeng, hmmm…..this girl ‘con’ me to work here… but later compensated by treating me superbly nice and always lend me a listening ear and objective views about things, about people.... and girl (I mean aunty), I appreciate how you’ve always been so encouraging and supportive to me when I’ve been through my really ‘low’ period here… thanks, you’ve been great….and you owe me a proper ‘chit-chat’ date ya :)

Haha….enough of thank you speech…. I just thought I want to write this so that you gals won't continue wondering and to also say that I appreciate you gals.

Time to hit the sack, else I’ll be sacked tomorrow for being late for meeting hahahaha….

Lastly, I just want to say that GIRLS, one thing never change – I’m always here when you need me :) Anything at all, as long as I can do it for you....

True friends are those who will point out your weakness and be true to you…I desire that from you all, so, feel free ya anytime….. :)

CHEERS!!!

P/s wanted to dedicate this song to you (Whitney Houston and Mariah Carey "When you believe") from Youtube, don't know why I can't register my blogsite to it, so here's the link girls (*but I doubt we can watch this at work*) --->

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OGRgm9ZHG3A